Humbug People

For a moment consider people around you. Are they really your tribe or the one you would aspire to be in future? Are they the ones who would genuinely want to see you succeed and be happy forever? Or are they the fake ones who would wish otherwise.

We all understand the need to be surrounded by the people who are genuine individuals, the ones who care, bring something to our palate and most important: Leave the fakeness behind. All this without any hidden agenda or motive.

We always have people simply wanting to get somewhere, all the time. Latching on for some secondary gains which could even be sympathy, attention or anything. They are the showy kinds, looking at themselves in the mirror show every part of their body, collect souvenirs of their own achievements and assert that they are the best at what they do! Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

Did you ever try and have a meaningful conversation with a fake person? Its impossible and it is  so because they have very limited emotional intelligence and are truly unaware of how they feel deep down under and moreover it is a fact that they do not want to express their true self . In a nutshell they are murky in expressing their ytu self. They do not self-reflect,

A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath and is an obligation on someone.

Fakers have unrealistic expectations from the world and especially people around them as if the friends and family are free of bonds and responsibilities and are born to help them, always. Expectations are 24X7 and wish for the world.

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”) They leave you in the lurch for the 100th time this year. Fakers have A Chronic Pasted Smile. You have observed it ! They brew resentment, jealousy and anger behind it. Behind that postcard smile they are Unhappy.

To be remembered is that These People are really BAD FRIENDS. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals, LIKE ME, again.